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Annoying people are everywhere, but there’s one you can’t get away from – the co-worker from hell. She’s condescending, confrontational and makes your blood boil. But if you want to thrive at work, dealing with difficult co-workers can be part of the job. Here’s how to handle the situation…
Work stress comes in all forms, from navigating office politics to meeting too-tight deadlines. But when you’re dealing with difficult co-workers, your daily frustrations can build up fast.
There’s no escaping the people you spend 40 hours a week with, unless you’re willing to change jobs (or try to sabotage theirs). And conflicts at work are unhealthy to your body as well as your career.
“Problems caused by difficult people at work can create enormous disturbances and disruptions in our lives,” writes Alan A. Cavaiola, Ph.D., author of Toxic Coworkers (New Harbinger Publications) and a professor in the Department of Psychological Counseling at Monmouth University in West Long Branch, N.J. Interacting with them on a regular basis can be “the most stressful part” of your job, he notes.
Fortunately, there are ways of getting around the situation. You can learn to defend yourself against negative emotions or unreasonable demands. Or you can try to alter the situation – you’d be surprised how much you can do to change a difficult co-worker into a manageable, and perhaps even likeable, one.
Don’t waste precious energy fighting with someone you can’t stand. Instead, practice these 5 tips to make it through your work day in spite of the co-worker from hell.
Tip #1 for dealing with difficult co-workers : Be prepared for conflict.
The best way to head off a problem is to see it coming before it invades your cubicle.
If you have to deal regularly with an argumentative co-worker, plan in advance how you’re going to handle the situation.
When you’re unprepared, you’re likely to react instinctively to your anger and annoyance with impulsive behavior that accomplishes nothing. This will only succeed in making a bad situation worse.
Sometimes it helps to practice a debate before it actually happens. Stage a likely conflict in your mind and work through the various scenarios.
First, allow yourself to act immature, and listen to how foolish you sound.
Does name-calling and bashing the co-worker’s performance make you the better person? No.
Next, play the part of the professional. Instead of having a witty comeback to her every snide remark, act like a grown-up and aim to resolve the conflict.
And learn these do’s and don’ts of debate:
- Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the situation. Do uphold your morals and values. Don’t be arrogant. Do be self-confident.
- Don’t be overly stubborn. Do be willing to compromise.
- Don’t let her get under your skin. Do recognize cheap shots for what they are: an attempt to get you to sink to her level.
Tip #2 for dealing with difficult co-workers : Don’t fuel the fire.