I was with a friend last week when he complained to me bitterly that his wife never listens to him but their Pastor. He said that he was having some suspicions about the closeness between his wife and the pastor. There is nothing going between your wife and the Pastor. Do you know why?
A lot of men are passing through this phase in their marriage life that some have ended up taking regrettable steps. Looking at the way women are, they can be likened to “android phones” because they upgrades of men who we can see as the old Nokia 3310 because of their ruggedness.
A woman will only submit to a man she sees as her god. Women are created to respect those who are superior in knowledge, education and appear as father figure to them. Being a man is not all about money or be a superstar in bed but having the ability to add value to her life. When you start to teach your wife and handle spiritual matters, gradually she starts to take away the focus from the pastor to you.
As a man you must start to make your wife see you as next to God. After God, the man is next in the eyes of the woman but when she doesn’t see you exhibiting that god-like feature, her next place of search is the pastor. In whatever religion you practice, you need to start getting closer to God. Even when you stop her from going to that church and move to a new church, all she needs is just some months and you are back to square one.
Every man needs to start learning to become gods in the eyes of the woman. Becoming a lion or a tyrant will not get you anywhere. She can pretend to have been subdued but your home is under the control of her pastor.
Being a god is not about domination but guidance and control of your family affairs. The Pastor has enough issues at hand to attend to. So focus on your family and do the needful. Your wife is looking for you to perform better but when you are not forthcoming she must shift her attention elsewhere.
When you become a god, then your wife becomes a listening partner.