If you're living with a partner or spouse right now, and you're both working from home, you're probably bumping up against a few challenges when it comes to what’s fair and equitable. That's okay, but don’t let resentments fester or inequities grow. It might be time to negotiate — or renegotiate — the division between work and family roles.
Start by addressing small frustrations and annoyances as they come up throughout the workday. If your partner's loud typing disrupts your focus, for example, talk about it before you smash their keyboard. Next, be explicit about what you need from your partner when it comes to housework.
Have an open conversation about roles and responsibilities to proactively arrive at an equitable solution. Then, instead of declaring “problem solved,” check in with each other regularly to make sure your arrangement still works for you both. Your needs will change over time, so be prepared to improvise and innovate.
Couples who reframe this challenging moment as an opportunity to share and better understand each other’s needs will emerge with a stronger, more supportive relationship.