Marriage is not about MONEY or wealth.
Adam had no dime when God made Eve for him.
Marriage is not about SEX.
Adam was a virgin when God gave him Eve. Infact, it was the sin of eating the apple that made him realise he was naked in the first place.
Marriage is not about RELATIVES (Father, mother, brother or sister in-law). Adam and Eve had none when they were made to live together.
Marriage is not about CHILDREN. Until Adam and Eve knew they were naked...they had no thoughts of making children. You mustn't love your children more than your husband or wife.
Marriage is not about BEAUTY or being HANDSOME. Adam had no idea of who God was giving to him as a wife neither did Eve. The Bible says, God created us in His image and likeness....which means we are all beautiful and handsome....because we are carriers of his glory.
Marriage is not about EDUCATION or DEGREES. Adam and Eve had none when they got united by God.
Marriage is about HELP, SUPPORT, ASSISTANCE, UNDERSTANDING. All these cannot be seen or found without LOVE.
The first consideration of God in creating Eve was to be a helper to Adam....because in the Almighty wisdom of God, Adam may be frustrated of boredom and loneliness if a helper was not given to him.
So folks, who is your wife or husband to you? A sex machine? An ATM machine? A child factory? Daddy's girl or Mummy's boy? Are you are gold digger?
Why are you into that marriage? Why are going into it? To marry just because your friends are all married? Oh, because he is stinkingly rich? Ok, because she extremely beautiful? I see, because he is a graduate?
These factors fade with time, season and situation. But for those who see their wives and husbands as helpers will not waiver because God is in them.... and using them to help you.
So what is help? Or who is a helper? According Psalm 121, the Bible or Psalmist says, "I look up to the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from God who made Heaven and Earth".
This sums it up. When God gives you a husband or wife, He has given you everything. He is in your husband just as He dwells in your wife. God is therefore, your sole provider. He is the helper you see in your husband or wife.
Little wonder the Bible says in Proverbs 18 vs 22, "He that findeth a wife....findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from God".
So what is favour? Favour is Divine help. Uncommon support. Supreme assistance. Heavenly backup. It can only come from God.
God bless us all folks.... Have a successful week!
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Desmond Ekwueme is a renowned Nigerian Journalist based in Lagos, Nigeria