Your Character Determines Your Success
By Aderogba Gbadebo
A lot of people have been frustrated and have given up on hope. As far as they think, bad luck seems to follow them wherever they go. They just cannot seem to understand why nobody is interested in their progress. They have no clue as to why nobody is interested in them enough to want to help.
There are people who believe that they have the mental capacity and the presence of mind to be able to pass through the university or any other higher institution in flying colours. They believe they have what it takes and are willing to stake everything including hard work to make it through. But they cannot do this all alone however much they believe in themselves. They have not got the money to sponsor themselves and their parents are equally helpless. They have been to aunts, uncles, nephews and every family member far and near to no avail. These relatives seem to have the money but they are just not interested in the proposal.
You have this fantastic business idea. An idea that seems to come fully loaded with the magic wand to guarantee success. Try as much as you may, you seem to be the only one who sees the brilliance in this idea. To the siblings and relatives you have approached, you appear to be attempting to sell ice to the Eskimos. And they are wondering which Eskimo would buy ice from you. So, no deal. No money to back up that beautiful idea.
You belong to that society or Non-Governmental Organisation (NGO) and you have very laudable projects you want to execute. You believe your projects are so relevant and timely they are like hot cakes ready for the market. But ever since you started looking for support, you have met one brick wall after another and there seems to be no end to the disappointments you are getting. You have criss-crossed the nooks and crannies, yet nobody wants to part with his or her hard-earned money. And you don't seem to know what the problem is.
If you have found yourself in any one of these situations, you might want to think that Nigerians are a bunch of miserable tight-fisted misers. You might think that we are a bunch of greedy, unsupportive people. You might even think that the milk of human kindness has all but completely dried up from our veins even if they ever ran through them in the first place. But would any or all of these thoughts be true?
You should take a closer look around you. There are business owners who started their businesses with generous doses of venture capital from siblings and relatives. How did they achieve these feats? There are even more entrepreneurs who tell the success stories of how they got help from far-flung and distant people when they needed to start off. How come you could not pull a stunt that looks so simple? What magic wand did they wield that you could not lay your hands on? You have blamed everyone and everything but yourself. Why don't you beam the searchlight on yourself and probably see if there is anything you are doing wrong?
It is really about you and the kind of person you are. What kind of person are you? Can your siblings who are very close to you vouch for your character? What about your aunts, uncles and cousins? Do they see you as an honest, hardworking, focused, dedicated and committed person? Do people around see you as a strong-willed person with an handsome dose of courage, patience and wisdom? How about your lifestyle? Do you follow the trend or do you have the courage of conviction to follow that which you think to be right? Are you ostentatious in your style of dressing, taste for food, and love for cars?
The answers you give to these questions will determine whether that project will get the necessary support or whether it is already dead on arrival. You should know that first and foremost, nobody is interested in your project but in whom you are. It is when they have successfully gotten past who you are that they can now consider whether your idea is with or without merit. If your character is considered above board, you will find that people will support your idea if it is good. But if the idea is bad and your character is good, you will be told to come up with a better idea and they will support you.
God help you if your character is bad! It would not matter if your idea is good or not because nobody would get past your character let alone consider your idea. Everywhere you go your character would mark you as bad game and people would compete in keeping their distance from you and anything you touch. The fact of the matter is that no wise person wants to lose the money he or she has had to work hard to legitimately earn. This is because the person who manages one's money cannot do better than his character suggests.
It is for the same reason that many people got their fingers burnt and lost much money the last time the Nigerian stock market collapsed. Most of these people are 'gamblers' who did not look at the indices that each company had to present. Most importantly, they never bothered to look at the track record, character and lifestyles of the members of the board of directors and the managing director or the chief executive officer. How then could they have been certain that they were entrusting their money in safe hands? And since they did not bother about that which was most important, how could they have bothered to know about the general operating environment of the stock market? So, they got hit below the belt when they least expected.
It is a wise and calculated risk to hand over your money to a person with discipline and calm disposition as opposed to someone who is unruly and wasteful. This definitely explains why your character has a lot to do with your success. So, you might have to start today to fill in the gaps in your character traits. People who are seasoned investors as opposed to gamblers would want to know why nobody in your immediate family or vicinity has deemed it fit to stake his money on your idea. If indeed your character and idea are that good, your charity should have started at home!