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Justice Ijeoma Ojukwu of the Federal High Court in Abuja has expressed concern as no one is willing to stand as surety for Omoyele Sowore, convener of #RevolutionNow Movement who was arrested on charges of treason and insulting President Buhari.  The Federal High Court Judge who spoke […]

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Surviving As A Single Mom- A Guide

Surviving As A Single Mom- A Guide

If you’re splitting up, you need to help your kids (and yourself) make it through the rough stuff. Women of any age can become single parents through death of a spouse, divorce, abandonment or choice. Here are a few suggestions to maintain mental health, thrive as an individual and nurture your children in the best possible manner.

Life After Separation

When my sons, Jacob and Isaac, were just 3 and 1, my husband and I separated. As a child of a divorce, I’d always sworn that I’d never put my kids through that — yet as it turned out, living paycheck to paycheck and trying to do our own growing up while raising a family proved to be too great a strain on our marriage: It bent, cracked, and finally broke.

I flew through the first couple of months after our separation in an adrenaline-powered blur. But things like finding a place to live and paying for it all by myself, taking care of almost all the day-to-day parenting of two small children, and trying to find a job when I’d been out of the workforce since college terrified me. I felt like a flake — not a strong, capable mother who was going teach her children to succeed despite the obstacles ahead.

Single Moms Need a Tribe

When I was married, we were just like all the other families: our own tiny self-sufficient universe. Even if my husband and I didn’t get along, we were both still deeply invested in the minutiae of running our family. Then one day, my best friend and co-parent was gone from my life. Though I had always paid lip service to the “It takes a village” idea, it turned out that, while there might have been some “village” people out there, we had been too wrapped up in our own lives to get to know them.

It really hit me one Friday night. I was driving through a bad snowstorm with my little boys. What if our car skidded off the road into a ditch? Would anyone notice? Okay, that was an exaggeration — but it’s how it felt at the time, and it prompted me into action. I decided to check in every night with another single mom. Then I made a conscious effort to invite friends over for dinner, ask a neighbor to help me move my couch, and chat with the other moms at drop-off. Slowly, my sense that I had a contagious disease lifted, and I found myself expanding my definition of what makes a family. “It’s crucial to explain to children that family is defined by people who love us and whom we feel really close to”  says M. Gary Neuman, author of Helping Your Child Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.

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Suck It Up and Get Along with Your Ex

When my divorce was new, talking with my ex was painful. We were angry at each other, and, let’s face it, looking for ways to hurt each other. But no matter how right I felt I was, deep down in my heart I knew: Being in constant fight mode was horrible for my kids, and it was making me even more miserable. “You have an obligation to your kids to stay friendly — or at least civil — with your former spouse,” says Neuman. But this is easier said than done. So, I tried my hardest and used the greatest gift to divorced parents everywhere: e-mail. Hashing out sensitive topics this way allowed me to cool down before responding. “Sleep before you send,” advises New York City family-law specialist Peter Bienstock. “Read the e-mail again in the morning, and make sure it says exactly what you mean.” Don’t be snide, angry, or sarcastic. Try for a pleasant and courteous tone even if you don’t feel that way. It’s easy to fake it electronically.

…and Stop the Trash Talk

“It’s absolutely critical that you take the high road and don’t bad-mouth your ex in front of the kids,” says Susan Bartell, PsyD, author of Mommy or Daddy: Whose Side Am I On? Whatever his flaws, your kids love their dad with all their heart. But what about when your ex doesn’t show up for visits or blows off child-support payments and actually makes your kids’ life miserable? “It’s good to acknowledge your child’s feelings as long as…

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